COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN continued......

WHY IS VERBAL COMMUNICATION SO DIFFICULT? Post No.34 (A 7 minute read)

As modern MAN-MADE societies of peoples, every day we have more tools for communication and yet verbal communication is so notably absent. WHY? When in REALITY what we all fundamentally NEED as human beings is contact with other fellow HUMAN beings. Don´t you think?

As a mother of a new young life, you automatically become teacher. You have a baby who as yet knows not how to speak and it is your job to teach them this very first fundamental skill. But as I like to remind school teachers, those little kiddies could all speak when they came to you! Many like my Puppy, could read and write too!!

As mothers, we had been the initiators of our children´s learning process. When a baby fundamentally knows nothing as yet, how do you teach them? Well, this chapter thirty-one entitled COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN continued..... (Yes, there has been a previous chapter with the same title!), is all about learning to communicate.

It is a very interesting time to live through as a woman, you learn much about yourself too. Sounds and facial gestures are part of your range of learning accessories. Physical gestures accompanied by words, using eyes and ears in unison. The whole process of word association is done primarily within the home by parents. In this case, ME!

I had an absolute ball, I really did! My Puppy was just like I as a young toddler, he had a voracious appetite for learning and was just like me in his memorial ability; he was like a sponge. So, I who had been a systematic question asker and only given answers when it suited the adult, well, my Puppy was going to have each and every one of his questions answered!!

MY HUMAN PUPPY AND MY ANIMAL PUPPY! WE ALL LEARNT FROM EACH OTHER! DACHSHUNDS ARE SO INTUITIVE! 

I did not always know the answer and I would say that! "So, we will have to go exploring and find out together, won´t we?" And so we did! My toddler Puppy was quite possibly one of my favourite companions in life. It was all learning and teaching, who was teaching what to who and when, I was not always sure. I know that I was learning so much by this experience and as he was such a happy, playful, buzzy, energetic, bold type and well, we had a ball together.

He had a short attention span as do most young children. I would sit initially for just fifteen minutes with him when I began with the writing process and then we would leave everything on his table and go out exploring somewhere. I would incorporate the letter on paper with its usage around us. Word, letter, sound and the real objects that he could then touch, smell, taste, hear, were all fused together in this lovely journey of learning!

We would take a picnic and sit outdoors somewhere and enjoy whatever the weather was and wherever the place was. He was always ready for something new. He was so much fun. I really miss him in my life now. Then we would wend our way back home for a sit down and a twenty minute children´s programmes session. `The sat on my lap´ time which was exquisite.

Back to the concentration training and another practice spell at the letter of the day and then some painting, drawing, colouring activities. Another quick whizz around the park on his bike with me jogging beside him and we would go into the kitchen together and he would help me get the dinner ready.

After dinner it would be time for games. We had a shop called THE EARLY LEARNING CENTRE and it had a wonderful array of material for stimulating young minds. My sister and I were regular shoppers there. So, we would play some games together whilst he digested and then it would be bathtime.

Young children love bathtime and you can get more learning in here, as well as paving the way for bed and sleep. Puppy had his foam alphabet and would fish the letters out of the bubbles and make words on the tiled walls. From there to pyjamas and bed but not without the bedtime story, oh, no! Now that would be unthinkable, that would.

Like Puppy did not have books to choose from, just as my sisters and I had, so did our Puppy have books galore. He would choose the book and snuggled into bed, my last task of the day was one of my favourites, story reading!! I was story reading to him until the teens kicked in. I have sat and read adult books to him (Lord of the Rings for example) whilst he has sat drawing.

Puppy then came to live here in Spain and so found himself learning three languages simultaneously! But he had no trouble there. Our communication skills therefore, had become sublime, it was a beautiful time of life. Puberty kicks in and WHAT????? Suddenly this communicative, chatty, open Puppy is now talking another language!! All based on sounds, grunts and snarls!!!! TESTOSTERONE!!

Is that why males can only communicate sincerely up to puberty? From there on it is the other head that is in control? Well, I managed to keep close to my Puppy through these years as I tell in my book. Controlling that other head was of course, all part of the teaching! Contraception, relationships of all natures but particularly those with girls.

I know I tried very hard to teach him to care for others and he is very caring just like me. Probably like me too, he is too caring for others given what we both receive in return for our care. But hey, he, like I, will quite likely never find that reciprocity which is Mum and child. Is that not what every male seeks to find in his female partner? Yes, I certainly wanted my father´s character traits in my partner but maybe it is the freedom and unconditional support that my father gave me, that few males can replicate.

My father of course, was thinking with a view to his children´s independence from him. A male partner is thinking with a view to making you dependent on him, by not supporting you and blocking your path of freedom. This male does not want you to be independent of him!!

I continue looking at the divine right of the male seed. The problems that adolescents have communicating. I begin looking at how we actually built our languages in the first place and that leads into chapter thirty-two, PICTURE BOOKS, which is the half way point of this, my first book.

How have you done as a parent? Did you suffer communication breakdown with your children at anytime? If you did, have you been able to re-connect? Have your children ever thanked you for all of your dedication to their learning and well being?

Happily I can say that mine has, it can seem a thankless task bringing up teenagers. Babies are one thing, strapping great, stroppy, bristling, snarling, grunting teenagers are another. Be warned!!

Thank you ALL for reading. Please FEEL welcome to comment on this or any other post or make communication via the contact box or click the follow tab and keep up to date. Next post will be PICTURE BOOKS, until then, happy learning!

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A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL!!

ON TO EVER INCREASING CIRCLES!!! Post No.33 (A 6 minute read) 

Are you thinking of moving in ever increasing circles this year? Have you started off the year full of plans and intentions? I have got off to a very slow start this year. I FEEL that I do not want this year and all that IS coming my way, like it or not!! As such, my own levels of push and drive are low. What is the point in all my intentions, after all, that is all they are. Good intentions!

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL FROM A SOMEWHAT YOUNGER ME AND MY TWO BELOVED DACHSHUNDS!!

Well, if I can only have the luxury of using my mind, I will use it always with good intentions! That will not change. Why waste valuable thinking time as well as living time, on bad intentions? Moving on with my book review, that book being ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN, I am now into chapter twenty-nine, entitled EVER INCREASING CIRCLES.

And yes, well, the idea of writing a book is so that others can in their own good time, sit and read through my words. So, back from Morocco, break up with guy, move back to family home and have a re-think time. What I could see was that my Mr. Benn life style was just great, it was, but what did I have to show for my efforts? Knowledge and understanding were what I had to show for my efforts so far.

How could I apply this knowledge and understanding? So, after finding another bit job, plans were made for another trip to Morocco, this time though to find work. Head in the clouds I am sad to say and though I had another wonderful month in that beautiful country, I was obliged to use the return part of my ticket and come home!

Owing to reasons beyond my control, once again I had missed my last train home and so jumped on a train to Cambridge where my elder sister was now living as an alternative option. I had missed the last post train as well that time! I decided to find a job in Cambridge and enjoyed again meeting another new set of people but I did not get close to anyone here.

We drove down to our home village for Christmas and in the January, packed up and headed off to Gibraltar to start with, then on to Morocco for a while and then back into Spain where we were hoping to pick up work, which we did!! Big sister went back to the UK and I stayed on and my days of living in Spain began!

In the time of today, in my home nation, the first COVID-19 vaccines were being administered. I received the news that my mother had received her´s and was very relieved by that. When will we get ours here I wondered?

CHAPTER THIRTY - SAHARA BOUND

Two in one today my friends and I am so wanting to get this review finished that I have even overlooked greeting you all thus far. A very good afternoon to you ALL and thank you for reading this far today.

BREXIT may ring a bell to many of you but as a British national, I was going to notice a knock-on effect somewhere. I look in this chapter at some of the consequences for British nationals after this miserable decision to re-isolate the nation again! I had no right to vote having been out of the UK for more than ten years. So, I was raw because I had no say, I had no voice at all! Story of my life!!

My first trip back home presented me with the most delightful surprise. Our beautiful Dachshund had had four beautiful puppies, two boys and two girls, one of whom became a permanent member of the family! It was a special time indeed for me and my family. My plans for Africa were developing and this time, I was off for a long expedition!!

I talk too of the Arab, African, Asian custom of car sharing for a price. We too are doing that here in Almería. Living as we do, in a pretty similar way to the North African Arabs. Though the fear of strangers here does make this an option for the brave. Not so on the African continent!!

The boats full of African and Arab nationals arriving on the shores of Spain is dramatic. The year 2020, saw the highest numbers yet. Our taxi drivers were living exclusively off these new arrivals and our pensioners!!

Travel makes a wise person wiser and a fool more foolish. Yes, that is certainly true. All things organized, all plans in mind and off I flew to Algiers, Algeria, to begin my trek across the Sahara Desert. North to South, with all the time in the world. But not an awful lot of money!!

I cross paths with some young Algerians previously met in Marbella, Spain, in Algiers and that was so fortunate for me, given the circumstances. My first week of travel brings me to Ghardaia, Algeria, where this chapter draws to a close.

I really did have such an incredible adventure this trip and much of the second half of my book is centered on this marvellous expedition across Algeria, Niger, Burkina Faso, The Ivory Coast, Mali and again crossing the Sahara, South to North and back to the UK.

Have you gone on a long travel adventure alone? Have you spent long or short months in foreign lands? Have you set foot on the African continent? Does Africa have a pull for you? Or the Sahara Desert and the people who live down there?

I have as always, set off at a fine click but realized later as the posts began to add up, that really, I should have thought of numbering them to make it easier to follow my rather erratic Trains of Thought. I am in the process of doing that. The posts are dated though and I began in November just to aid you.

Thank you for reading today and any other day. I am overjoyed today to see that I have been read from Poland. Well met to you friend or friends. Please FEEL welcome to comment in the space below or make communication by e-mail, I have a contact box in the right-hand panel where you can also find my follow tab. 

Next post will be chapter thirty-one COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN continued...... and chapter thirty-two, PICTURE BOOKS. Until then, happy learning! And the book can be found on Amazon, these are the links: ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN Paperback and ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING OUT e-book

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