UNDERSTANDING NARCISSISM POSTS 1-12 : PAGE 1

NARCISSISM IS SO PREVALENT BUT ACTUALLY RECOGNIZING AND UNDERSTANDING THE TRAITS OF THE NARCISSIST IS ANOTHER MATTER.

In this new series of posts I am going to explore narcissism in great depth. I have lived very closely with NARCISSISTS all my life and indeed still do! I was always aware that I knew and had known, some very nasty people who I believed were ABUSIVE but did I know that there were all NARCISSISTS? No, I did not!

Doing some research of my own, my very first piece of work explored spoke of the 21 one signs that you are with a NARCISSIST partner. I could check 19 of the check boxes. There was no doubt, my partner was a full-blown NARCISSIST, not just a jealous, possessive, nasty bully.

I wrote my way through my whole life lived in my first book titled ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN Paperback, there is a link to that book and if you are interested in knowing more about it, be pleased to have a look at the four pages of the ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN posts (left-hand panel), in which I have reviewed this book in depth.

I knew that he was the reason for my unhappiness but I was more than unhappy, I was suicidal, I was losing my grip on life. I was sickening and weakening. How had I come to this? My research was leaving me no doubt at all; it was him or me. Did I have the strength to fight for my life?

Another book was written in the strengthening process, which was titled ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT Paperback and that is the amazon link to it. The three pages of the ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT posts (left-hand panel), are all dedicated to my review of it.

The more I learn, the more aware I am of just how psychologically sickened I am. But psychological healing can only begin with the recognition that something is very wrong with you and you want to be yourself once more! The dawning is just the beginning! 

THE UNDERSTANDING NARCISSISM POSTS NO. 1 - 12

POST NO.1/N - Published 26th October 2023 (A 10 minute read)

WHAT OR WHO MAKES A NARCISSIST? - In this first post of my Understanding Narcissism series I am beginning with scenario one, which is living with a female NARCISSIST; your mother. This was my case and I share my own FEELINGS related to my mother who I knew always had some kind of problem. Young children do not understand all words in their early stages of development but the tender INFJ types like myself, really do absorb all that is going on around them. But did anyone ever tell me that my mother was narcissist? The photo shows an arm with some desperate words written on it, I chose it because I know how that FEELS. Here is a link to this first post of the new series: WHAT OR WHO MAKES A NARCISSIST? 

I KNOW THIS FEELING FAR TOO WELL! Photo by Dollar Gill on Unsplash.

POST NO.2/N - Published 31st October 2023 (A 10 minute read)

DID YOUR PARENTS ASPIRE FOR YOUR FUTURE? - Breaking negative cycles requires our parents to aspire to more for their children and providing them with the opportunities that they were denied. Onto scenario two, living with a NARCISSIST father, which was my partner´s situation. How does that influence a boy´s future prospects and how does it shape his personality? All our insecurities are firmly established by our NARCISSIST parent in early childhood. The photo is by Finn on Unsplash and shows a poignant question posted on a tower block. I will give you the post link here: DID YOUR PARENTS ASPIRE FOR YOUR FUTURE? 

WHAT WOULD BE YOUR ANSWER? Photo by Finn on Unsplash.

POST NO.3/N - Published 3rd November 2023 (A 10 minute read)

WHO ARE ADOPTED OR ADOPTIVE NARCISSISTS? - The third case type of child narcissists that I am familiar with is the adopted boy child and in this post I speak of the profile of a traumatized child who does find goodly, adoptive parents but even so, cannot grow healthily. The insecurities grow, the sense of worthlessness grows, but healthy growth becomes stunned. The life outside the regular frame of the law seems to be where they find evaluation and they make easy prey for the unscrupulous predators that roam the streets by day and night! The photo is by Denise Jans on Unsplash and show the words, "Sometimes you have to be your own hero." written on a diary page. To have a read, use this link: WHO ARE ADOPTED OR ADOPTIVE NARCISSISTS? 

THERE IS A LOT OF TRUTH IN THOSE FEW WORDS! Photo by Denise Jans on Unsplash.

POST NO.4 - Published 9th November 2023 (A 10 minute read)

ABANDONED CHILDREN CAN BECOME NARCISSISTS TOO! - I am now looking at those children who have been abandoned by their biological parents but find no permanent substitute family. Just as my NARCISSIST boyfriend no.1, who was found a suitable adoptive home and parents, but later went on to reject them, so too did NARCISSIST boyfriend no.2! He rejected all attempts to provide him with substitute parents and as a result spent his childhood and early teenage years in a state care institution. What are the secondary effects of that? The photo is by Thought Catalog on Unsplash and shows some poignant words. You can access this post with the following link: ABANDONED CHILDREN CAN BECOME NARCISSISTS TOO! 

WORDS CAN BE SO EASY TO SAY? Photo by Thought Catalog on Unsplash.

POST NO.5/N - Published 15th November 2023 (A 10 minute read)

THE COVERT NARCISSIST IS A HUMAN PARASITE - What a sad statement to make but unfortunately it is true. In today´s post I am revealing my NARCISSIST partner, covert as he is. When it is your father who is the NARCISSIST in your life, you can bet that there will have been much physical violence going down in the home as well as the continual verbal and psychological abuse. Tremendously toxic environments for children to grow up in and the end product is another clutch of new NARCISSISTS! The photo shows some uplifting words on a fence and is by Dan Meyers on Unsplash. To have a read, use this link: THE COVERT NARCISSIST IS A HUMAN PARASITE! 

I KNOW I NEED REMINDING THAT I MATTER! Photo by Dan Meyers on Unsplash.

POST NO.6/N - Published 23rd November 2023

DID I REALLY CHOOSE A NARCISSIST? - That might sound a funny question but it is a very serious one? No, no one in their right mind would choose to spend time with a NARCISSIST but of course they do not display any bad symptoms initially. No, they play the part of just what you are needing and looking for. They induce FEELINGS of love and there is their trap for you! In this post I begin to reveal for the first time in my life, the truth of this first horrible encounter with a male NARCISSIST! The photo is of a collage naming some of the negative emotions associated with NARCISSISTIC ABUSE and is by Susan Wilkinson on Unsplash. You can find the post with this link: DID I REALLY CHOOSE A NARCISSIST? 

THERE ARE SO MANY NEGATIVE EMOTIONS CONNECTED WITH NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. Photo by Susan Wilkinson on Unsplash.

POST NO.7/N - Published 30th November 2023 (A 12 minute read)

THE NARCISSIST SPINS A WEB TO TRAP YOU IN - How true that is although it sounds like a metaphor. Like a Black Widow spider they ravel their web of lies around you and your own life becomes completely entangled with their´s. The NARCISSISTIC domination tactics are having the desired effect for the NARCISSIST but as the victim, you are fast losing your grip on your own reality. I continue exploring this awful first encounter of mine with a full-blown NARCISSIST. The photo is of a young girl wearing smudged make-up, to represent the bruising sustained to the face after violent NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. This post can be found with the following link: THE NARCISSIST SPINS A WEB TO TRAP YOU IN 

 A SIMULATED SMILE AND SYMBOLIC BRUISING SO TYPICAL OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE VICTIMS. Photo by Sydney Sims on Unsplash.

POST NO.8/N - Published 6th December 2023 (A 16 minute read)

MOVING ON FROM NARCISSISTIC ABUSE! - It really does require a concerted effort to pick yourself up anew after a relationship with a NARCISSIST male. You have been seriously de-railed and lost all of your sense of direction. There is so much catching up to try and do. You have to remember who you were before meeting this hideous monster who has treated you so badly. Support is crucial and I had that support from my father which saw me able to salvage much and find my way back to a good path. The photo shows the word ANXIETY on an ipad screen and is by Nik on Unsplash. MOVING ON FROM NARCISSISTIC ABUSE! is the link for this post. 

EVERY SUFFERER OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE KNOWS ANXIETY! Photo by Nik on Unsplash.

POST NO.9/N - Published 11th December 2023 (A 12 minute read)

LIVING AFTER A NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP! - Is there life after a narcissistic relationship? Can you ever be the same again? NO! Sadly, you will never be the same person that you were before that fatalistic first encounter with a male narcissist. But does time really heal all wounds? Maybe if those wounds are treated correctly but if they are brushed under the carpet and moved away from, are they not still lingering somewhere in your depths? Distance and meeting good people can help to resuscitate your energy levels and see positivity come back into your foreground again. The photo is by Available Psychologist on Unsplash and this is the link to the post: LIVING AFTER A NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP! 

THE END IS THE ONLY POSITIVE OUTCOME OF A NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP! Photo by Available Psychologist on Unsplash.

POST NO.10/N - Published 18th December 2023 (A 10 minute read)

NARCISSISTS ONLY PREY ON LONELY PEOPLE! - Yes, lonely people are emotionally vulnerable and tend to have weak boundaries. At that time of my life, I had become lonely and my boundaries were found to be far weaker than I had believed. Eight years on from my first male NARCISSIST, I found myself in the company of another one. It was the pressuring, the persistence, the following of my every movement, that eventually saw my guard broken down. In this post I look back and see how this new monster came into my life: NARCISSISTS ONLY PREY ON LONELY PEOPLE! The accompanying photo is by Annie Spratt on Unsplash.

LONELY PEOPLE MAKE PERFECT VICTIMS FOR THE NARCISSIST! Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash.

POST NO.11/N - Published 24th December 2023  (A 10 minute read)

NARCISSISTIC GUILT-TRIPS AND PRESSURE! The second post dealing with the next male narcissist to come close to me and I am remembering the Christmas of that year 1990 through the late Kirsty MacColl and Pogues song, "A Fairytale of New York!" Taking a look at those lyrics and how they tell the story of the narcissistic shared fantasy and the destroyed female life. I tried so hard to break away before it became impossible but try getting a narcissist to let go willingly. I headed off to Paris and a new era of my life began! The photo is of my skyline on Christmas Eve and this is the post link: NARCISSISTIC GUILT-TRIPS AND PRESSURE! 

SUNDOWN AT HOME ON CHRISTMAS EVE!

POST NO.12/N - Published 2nd January 2024 (A 10 minute read)

BREAKING AWAY FROM A VIOLENT NARCISSIST - Continuing to relate more of this ill-fated meeting with my second NARCISSIST male and he was about to make my life an absolute hell. Once more, I knew great physical pain and suffering but also encountered another Prince Charming! My whole new life was turned upside down and I was never the same person again. Anxiety and paranoia became mine once more and I lived uneasily again. This time though, I found that physical separation does not always mean the end of the nightmare. Oh, no! There is the SMEAR CAMPAIGN to come!!! The photo is by Annie Spratt on Unsplash and here is the link to this post: BREAKING AWAY FROM A VIOLENT NARCISSIST! 

WISHING EVERYONE A FRUITFUL NEW YEAR 2024! Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash.