ALL GOOD BOOKS HAVE A FOREWORD!

MY BOOK ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT HAS HER FOREWORD AND I WILL SHARE IT WITH YOU ALL! Post No.4/IN (A 9 minute read) 

It is an odd work that of compiling a book yourself. The actual writing of the meat of the book, the whole reason for that book, comes so very easily to those natural writers like myself. But maybe I should stick to speaking ONLY for myself and not generalize! Having found out that I was myself the rare INFJ type personality, I have found that vindication that I was always lacking.

Though, having done a certain amount of reading and researching amongst the `supposed´ INFJs out there in the world, via internet sites of one description or another, I can see clearly that as INFJs, we do ALL suffer from the same trauma of REJECTION. We are ALL FEELING PERMANENTLY misunderstood but we are not misunderstood in reality, the truth is that no one will ever give us enough time to even begin to understand us.

We are TOO MUCH hard work for the average minded person! That is one of the general sensations that I can state. At the same time, try making contact with a `supposed´ INFJ type and you would be surprised just how impossible it is in reality! It seems to me, that we are ALL so deeply buried within ourselves, that we have lost ALL the will to even try again to build communication waves with another unknown person.

THE SUN SETS ON MY DAY!

Good afternoon to you ALL, whether you be INFJ type or any other type, you are welcome to my blog. I have had the pleasure of receiving viewers from Singapore, the USA, my birth nation Gran Bretaña, Germany, India, Egypt and Poland this week. People from the five continents have tuned in, WOW!! Thank you ALL so very much. I would love to hear your thoughts and views on my work and the subjects discussed. That is what I am looking for as an individual!

I wish to open up discussion and communicate reciprocally with others who have bright, sparking brains like myself! I can find none on the ground and so, am sending my messages out to the airwaves in the hopes that I may find some who could tune in to me and my chosen wavelength! It is a big world out there and I know that those like myself are in the minority in the western world!

Just a quick reminder before I launch into my foreword, that there is a contact box and a follow tab in the right-hand panel of the page. This is the second phase of my blog where I am now beginning my review of my second book titled, ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT. In the first phase, Posts No.1 - 60, were dedicated to my first book titled ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN. The Pages 1, 2, 3 and 4, are the listings of those 60 Posts and where they can be found on the post index, along with a summary of them in the left-hand panel.

Here are the Amazon links to my first book: ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN e-book and ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN Paperback

My blog description says it all, for me at least! My Trains of Thought! I am like a train and I rumble on at will and follow my thoughts just wherever they lead me. As they are all centered around world changing, I thought that maybe I should share them with the whole world, if they were interested to want to do so! As I can find not one human being who FEELS the same way as I, as yet! There is therefore, a beginning and an end to phase one on this blog but the posts ran consecutively from No.1 through to No.60, so, I would advise starting at the beginning, STRANGE as that advice may seem coming from an INFJ type!

THE FOREWORD TO ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT:

If we are prepared to learn life´s lessons as we go living them and apply what we learn beneficially, that should mean that we are growing as individual people and improving ourselves as and how we live our life. It appears to me as though in reality, it is the complete opposite that is occurring and as human beings, we are succumbing to the negative MAN-MADE forces in ever increasing numbers!

My first book ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN, just as this book ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT, have amply demonstrated to me that I am indeed a very unique type of person! That is why I have walked SOLO throughout my life and had very few close relationships but as you will read between these two books of mine, I have only found compatibility at times, although as a permanent companion in life, it has consistently eluded me!

How to make others AWARE of you in the year 2022, when all and sundry have been consciously trying to deny their AWARENESS of you constantly? Trying permanently and persistently to bring you down onto their level and fit into their minute, mindless schemes!

Therefore, the most obvious modern platforms to be seen upon are social networks. Well, I was never even a tiny bit interested in making contact that way. It was hard enough trying to make contact with genuine people in the flesh but invisible people, PHEW!!?? How could you ever know of their authenticity? No, I was not going to do social networks. I would not find MY kindred spirits on social networks!

I mulled over the idea of blogging and began to check it out. Then in a rare moment of boredom, I turned to YOUTUBE for a while, trying to be OBSERVANT rather than my typical INTROVERTED, INTUITIVE, following my own FEELINGS and ever being my own JUDGE, type of person and well, just listen to this!

"ARE YOU INFJ?" "What is an INFJ when at home?" I asked myself. Like we have not got letters being assigned to our newly established gender collectives! Is this another new collective, I wondered? So, I thought that I had best find out what an INFJ was all about!

There it was! A vital piece of knowledge that had been missing all my life so far! That vindication that I was right, it is ALL of the others who are so very wrong! I AM INFJ type! The rarest of the sixteen defined personality types and within this type of personality, I am classified as ADVOCATE. I am an INFJ type ADVOCATE!

I had found myself and my belief will never again leave me! We are between 1 and 4% say the statistics but of course, these personality tests will surely not have been carried out in the southern hemisphere, will they? Yes, I am indeed a RARITY in the northern hemisphere, that I already knew! Thankfully though, owing to my burning need to find REAL HUMAN BEINGS, I did find some! I found every nation that I travelled through on the African continent, absoulutely full of them!

The blog and the INFJ awareness came together and there was my path! My INFJ blog where I would review my books in my own words. And so have I done. I have just completed my review of my first book ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN and will now go on to do the same with this book too!

This blog is allowing me to let off steam on a regular basis, which now that my partner is retired and at home all day, seems to build up in large quantities, (not all of it being CREATIVE steam!) I FEEL as though I have made my beloved first book more visible to the deep-sea diver but still fairly elusive!! I would rather be select.

I am THE FEMALE INFJ WHO DOES NOT HAVE TABOOS and this is my blogsite for anyone who could FEEL interested in following my TRAINS OF THOUGHT! You will be WELCOME on board!

www.gillmet-ontheoutsidelookingin.blogspot.com

Just as with my first book, I have written the foreword AFTER writing the book???!!!! The rare INFJ type lives and learns by their own experience. I can say that what may seem so very logical and straight forward for the majority, is usual where INFJs trip up. Speaking for myself once more and I can say that I did not once give any consideration as to the dedication, prologue, foreword, epilogue, etc., or the book covers, front and back!

All books have a blurb on the back cover and publicity pages. I did not give so much as one momentary thought as to those minor details, as I thought of them! A book is about the words inside and you journey through the pages at the authors speed or your own speed. I like to RAMBLE and write. Never knowing quite what I will write on that day. What I do know though is that, whichever train of thought I choose to go on a ramble with, it will be time spent beneficially for me and for the greater good of ALL.

I am intune with the REAL world and the REAL human beings who may still be alive. ALL of my thinking is with the one purpose and that is making this world a safe, happy, plentiful, harmonious place for US ALL to live in! Why should I misuse time in any other way? There are hundreds of millions of people misusing their time each and every day!! Some of US need to think constructively in order that we can combat their ignorance!

I would see a world where we are coming together as INFJs or other folk who believe in life on Earth and will support positive actions to build stability for ALL those whose lives hang by a mere thread permanently. As northeners, we have so much to give the south. But man-kind has continued to spread by breeding and indoctrination. There are ever less HUMAN BEINGS in the western world, we must wake up and fight to win back our planet Earth.

Have you written a book before? If you have, did you think of the extras pages first or like I, last?

Thank you ALL for reading today, I do so hope that you will continue to look my way, I would love to hear some comments. How about someone gives me a nice surprise and you express your views and share them with me in the space below or click the follow tab and keep up to speed? Next post I will dive straight into chapter one, so, until then, happy learning!

I can now tell you (26/08/2023), that my second book is now available for reading. Check these links: ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT e-book and ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT Paperback

More INFJ material can be found here: https://lifestyle.feedspot.com/infj_blogs

ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT, THE INTRODUCTION!

INTRODUCING MY SECOND BOOK ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT. Post No.3/IN (An 8 minute read) 

Good evening to ALL readers, so lovely to have your attention for a few moments and today, as promised in the previous post, I am going to share the introduction of my newer book.

INTRODUCTION

Hello again!! I pick up my pen once more today, the 2nd of September 2021, with still so many thoughts jangling in my mind. In my first piece of published work ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN, I offloaded a multitude of stored up thoughts and ideas and assembled them in a reasonably ordered way at long last. I maybe did not realize at the beginning of my writing, that actually I would be filling out so many sides of paper!

Even so, I had to make a conscious decision to wind up to a close. Which was just as well, beginner that I am, as I did not forsee the size and weight of two hundred and sixty thousand plus words all typed up and printed out. To say that the process went totally smoothly would be untrue and as a result of my beginner publisher errors, I have actually got two paperback versions of my manuscript as well as the e-book!

I will elaborate on that further on! What I have found since I finished writing and then typing up my manuscript of ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN, is a tremendous void and a sense of emptiness again. I had FELT such a sense of purpose, something to get on with each day that was growing, building and making forward progress. I had been able to recognize already that it was a sense of purpose and the FEELING of growth, progression and sharing, that were so sorely missing from my life!

I had found myself at the point where all days roll into one and you really do not know what day of the week it is! It is just another day which will see you no further forward at the end of it! Nothing of any great importance will be achieved. By making a firm decision to strike out on a new path, I began to find the courage to begin to believe in myself again. I was FEELING very content with my work. I was applying myself to it with diligence, care and meaning.

I was building faith in my project and my ability to actually see this through to its finality. Actually turn my pages of thoughts into a real, readable book form. I found patience that I have not previously been possessed of and that saw my hopes growing stronger and stronger. Oh, yes! I was going to get this finished, I was going to get my work published and I was going to have the chance to reach out to others!

FAITH, BELIEF and HOPE, were the central themes of ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN. As human beings, I think we are conditioned by faith, belief and hope but why do they seem to be fleeting glimpses only? What is needing for us to be riding high permanently on faith, belief and hope? What is left once the faith, belief and hope all begin to fade away again?

The back to square one syndrome, is it not? What then move into the newly vacated emotional space are FEAR, ANXIETY and AWARENESS; sad, horrible awareness of the truth! You gave it your all but you did not make a jot of difference and you did not move forward as much as a millimetre. Fear, anxiety and awareness of your own truth, equal DEPRESSION!

In this book ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT, I am going to explore depression with you. I walk hand-in-hand with my own awareness of truth and even more so now, having recently run through my whole life of years lived. FEAR, I live with fear and ANXIETY is the result of emotional instability, so sad to say, having ridden on a wave of FAITH, BELIEF and HOPE for a year and a half, I have come all the way back to where I was before!

Overwhelmed by FEAR, ANXIETY and painfully accute AWARENESS of my own unhappiness!

BEAUTIFUL SUNSET OUTSIDE MY WINDOW!

What a sad start to a piece of writing and what painfully sad reasons for needing to write in the first place. You have NO ONE in this whole world who gives two hoots for you or your thoughts and FEELINGS. But writing in itself is a great way to prevent these newly added injuries starting to fester and the MAN-MADE toxins poisoning you to your death.

A trouble shared, is a trouble halved! Well, I do not know that mine were halved by any means but I did manage to prevent the rot of rejection getting set in! Was I strengthening or had I completely given up hope? In truth, I can see now in wonderful retrospect, that it was a mix of the two actually. Yes, I had definitively given up on the wild idea that my partner would EVER support me to do anything that I wanted to do work wise! Ah!!! What did I need to give up completely?

What I needed to give up completely was pouring so much of my positive energy into all things negative! I wrote this book knowing that I would not say a word to my partner about it. He would not approve, I knew that and so, our relationship, if it can be called that, had to move to accommodate my strengthening process. Less attention to the negatives of my life and pour on the attention to my future life which will of course, be ALL positive!

This was the beginning of a new stage of my development as a person. I had gone back to the day where all things went off track and whilst I could not see how I was to go about it, what I could now see was that, FORWARDS was not an option anymore, there was no point in my putting anymore belief in this relationship. The bubble had burst and just like teeth when they break their embryonic sacks, they begin to push and shove and eventually cut through the gums, finally becoming visible.

I was in for a rough ride, that I could forsee! I was not ready yet, I still did not understand something so crucial, or did I? Yes, I did! I had always known! I was headed down a dead end street! No, there is no forwards option, only back-tracking; but how?

There the problem that the majority of women have to deal with at one time or another. How to recover all the ground lost? How to make up for all the time lost? Time and energy given to a person who never cared about you as an individual person, instead of using that time profitably to continue improving yourself. Loathing moves to hating and once in hating mode, bitterness comes with every word and gesture!

I still did not know that I was the rare INFJ personality type but I knew that I was right, I just had to be honest with myself. But whilst I could see my painful truth painted in pictures before my eyes, it was my FEAR of it and what it ALL really means to me in real terms, that had me seek solice and enlightenment from within myself, the only likely place to seek for answers and the courage with which to act. 

I had to run away from all and sundry, find a safe haven where I could safely cry and lick my new, very deep wounds and from there really start making some conscious decisions for my future, should I live to have one. That was my vision and readers of my blog, which I am writing in the aftermath of these three years of writing down my tortured thoughts and FEELINGS, will now know how I have lived to survive through to today!

TODAY! My only day until I have a TOMORROW!

Thank you so much for joining me today. It would be fantastic to hear some comments from you where ever in the world you may be viewing from. There is a comment space below and in the right-hand panel you can find my contact box and follow tab, if you would like to keep up to speed with my posts. I would love to have you on board! In the left-hand panel, you can find PAGES ONE, TWO, THREE and FOUR, which are the summaries of the ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN (my first book) posts and where to find them all on the Post Index.

Here are the Amazon links to my first book: ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN e-book and ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKING IN Paperback

Next post I will share my foreword with you all and I shall look FORWARD to that. Until then, happy learning to you all!

With great joy I can now (26/08/2023), announce the publication of my second book, here are the links: ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT e-book and ON THE INSIDE LOOKING OUT Paperback

More INFJ blogs can be found here: https://lifestyle.feedspot.com/infj_blogs